Preparing for Lock-Up

Over the holidays, I was approached to be the keyholder for a dear friend. This person and I share many of the same spaces in kink and leather, I have played with them before, but this presented a new challenge. Being a keyholder for someone who is already a practiced body ritualist is different to keyholding for someone new to kink; there is a body awareness and communication that come with the experience of playing with denial. It also brought up some things for Me as the keyholder that I feel I need from My chastity submissive in order for both of us to have fun and enjoy the experience.

First off, I need your complete honesty and ability to communicate. You thought the first thing I'd need is a cage? Absolutely not; I need your willingness to participate and your honesty. I maintain an air of confident coach and open communication, first. If you don't tell Me what is happening for you, I don't know how to steer your experience back on track. Nocturnal emission? A moment of weakness? Tell Me! I am here to guide you and that means talking to Me if something comes up. Of course there will be consequences, but the goal is one agreed upon between the parties in the chastity agreement. The worst is when a submissive goes AWOL and only to find out months later that they couldn't take the pressure and bailed on the experience without a check-in. Going no contact with Me communicates that you: don't trust Me, don't trust this process, or you are simply not ready to make the commitment. Prove Me wrong.

Tell Me why you want this experience. It isn't for everyone, so why does it call to you? Whether you are simply a lover of tease and denial or wish to train your cock to be a sissy nub, I want to know your “why”. It will shape your whole experience as well as the punishments I select for you. Explaining why this play stimulates you gives Me more knowledge about how you tick. If I know what motivates you to stay in chastity, I can work with that. I am also a big cock and ball torment enthusiast and evangelize My craft with all who wish to hear, see, and feel My work. The assortment of toys existing that are made for torturing your cock and balls is infinite and ever changing. I am often inspired and collect clips, pins, clamps, etc. all over.

Imagining what life will look like inside your chastity is a good practice. Your "how" in this instance is your success plan. Ponder a life of manscaping, moisturizing your skin, sitting down to pee. Life will look different, are you prepared? Research your chastity cages. Measure your body, both erect and flacid. Measure your whole "stalk", erect & flacid. Get realistic about your sizes and try to buy a cage that is appropriate for our needs. The cage you select may have a lock built in, it may also use a seperate lock. I really like using the little serial code locks that have to be cut off. They work marvelously with plastic cages and travel. Easy to snap a photo to send to your Domme from the airport before and after a flight 😃

Either way, I always hold a copy of your key (for ransom😉).

The secret to successful chastity is the success of interpersonal communication and shared kink for captivity and ownership. Physical ownership, sexual ownership. Orgasm denial. The more desperate, the better the suffering. The deeper the suffering, the more intense the ephemeral highs will be when they are allowed. I like pulling those puppet strings, so let Me do it to you. Submit your body and mind to a trial of celibacy managed by a Powerful Woman!